This month we asked our friend Jazz some questions about being a mom. Check out her answers below!
What is your favorite thing about being a parent?
There are many things I seem to favor. One of them specifically, about having a girl, is I get to dress her up and shop for her. Which is crazy because I am a terrible shopper for myself but it feels good to shop for someone else, especially since it's my baby girl. This is leading to one of my favorite parts, I get to see her personality grow and learn about her likes and dislikes. I'll give her options, for example, I will let her choose between a black dress or a pink dress. Sometimes she chooses the black dress, and sometimes she chooses the flashiest most sparkly thing in the store. It's always exciting seeing what her mind decides that day. It's never a dull moment.
When it comes to watching she will most likely lean towards Batman or Naruto (an anime that I like watching that she totally got into with me and now it's "our thing"). So she has her "tomboy" ways but she will surprise me with her sensitive "princess" ways as well. Either way, I love and encourage her decisions every day and she makes me proud. (Queue my tears.)
What have you learned from your child?
One of my most important lessons in life: to be patient. I struggle with it constantly but I am aware and I've learned to shut the fuck up and listen and analyze the situation within seconds. I am not perfect but I try to be aware of my surroundings. That was something my dad taught me when I was a kid and I am just now understanding it being a parent.
What is the best advice about parenting that you have been given?
That you don't have to listen to anyone's advice. It's simple, everyone will have their way about raising their child and that is perfectly fine. As long as parent and child are happy, that's all that matters. It is no one else's business.
I am always worried that other people think I'm a bad parent, but they have no idea and I shouldn't care what other people think. All that matters is that I love my baby and do my god damn best every day. I fail and cry and break down at times, but at the end of the day I have a sweet child that I get to experience life with and I am so grateful for that.
What is some advice that you would give to new parents?
It's okay to feel like you don't know what to do. Because we all have no idea what we're doing. We just wing it until we find our own groovin' style. Sometimes I can be strict and other times I just let my child run wild. Schedules don't exist, as hard as you try, you can't control anything. You just make the best of each day. It won't be perfect. Always take a moment to look at the beauty you created and enjoy.